Some Of Us Don't Want A Big Fat Wedding, Some Do. Let's Co-exist?

READING TIME    10 Minutes

I always run into a debate about how big-fat wedding functions are such a waste of money, and people should rather go for court marriages and save that money. Maybe. But maybe, some people want that marriage? It is important for them. And the memories it creates cannot be measured in any currency. Let's be the liberal society we think we are and let them have it?

I am not up for the bookish definition of “marriage”. Nope. I am up for love and for the effortless conviction that two people would work through-whatever-comes to lead their lives with each other.

I am up for the natural progression of friendship that ranks way above airy terms like “soulmate” or “The One”. I am up for passion, for heart-out, spirit-tripping care and affection that allows two humans to build their very best selves. With each other, through each other. I am up for honesty, words backed up by actions, time and again, and conversations that make a special place for silence. I am up for comfort, for vulnerability --- the kind that puts your demons on the table and lets them feel safe --- and for the space to bloom.

If that’s marriage, I am up for it. And that’s what I would like my personal definition to be. No law, no piece of parchment, no signature and no witness, for me, will ever decide whether two people are fit to design a life together. Nope. My heart, his heart. My breath, his breath are witnesses enough, sacred enough to approve of this bond.

And that’s exactly what I wish for when I see these 25 couples.

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