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There is a very fine line between healthy self-criticism and constant berating of the self. And most of the time, we hardly ever realize we’ve crossed the border and gone far into enemy territory (without ammunition, beat that). We wonder why we don’t feel good even when the days aren’t all that bad. And it’s all because on that hindering internal monologue of ours.
Don’t get me wrong. I am all for self-improvement and nailing all your light. And healthy self-criticism is pretty essential when it comes down to hardcore transformation. But peeps, you can’t be cruel to yourself while you try to shine brighter. Nope, it ain’t working. And today, I am here to share a few tricks with you on how to recognize your harsh inner critic, ask it to shush for a bit and lovingly grow as a human.
There’s no need to fear it or run away every time it knocks on your brain door. Face it full on and don’t be afraid to watch it’s most intricate workings. Study it nice.
Try this. Watch all your inner conversations that take place. And watch them as an outsider would watch your brain workings. Is it positive and uplifting? Or self demeaning? Is your inner dialogue inspiring you to live better, be better and express yourself all out? Or is it constantly putting you down, making you feel like a total loser?
That’s the thing about us humans. We are quick to sap up guilt and misery, but talk about pointing out what your strengths are and we’ll probably wait an hour before we could figure a single one out. Red alert. Your disciplinary inner critic banks on your pile of guilt and self-pity. So don’t believe everything it says.
Your inner critic won’t just randomly whisper evil things to you. It is snugly rooted in the self-beliefs that have been unintentionally formed in all the years before you became self-aware. Try and pinpoint those beliefs and corner them. Question their presence and heal them.
You may have a thorough warfare with yourself on a lot of things you think you need to buck up on. But while you’re at it, try and find another voice. A voice that is deeply supportive of every attempt you make, every tiny success you achieve.
Hell to the yeah. Allow that positive, self-caring voice to reach you. Listen to it’s constant cheering and acknowledge its presence. That will provide a nice contrast to the tough critic of a voice you regularly attend to.
Or for no other reason except for the fact that you wake up every day, try to be a better person and are still consistently working towards something you love.
“We all make mistakes, but even tragic ones do not warrant withholding self-love. Self-forgiveness is an art that needs to be practiced and reinforced, especially when you’ve got a harsh internal self-critic”
Let’s face it. You’re going to disappoint yourself more times than you can count. There’ll be times when you mess up and it’s totally essential that you learn to forgive yourself and love yourself unconditionally.
Cut it from the roots. The minute you observe the same patterns of self-pity and guilt, stop and choose to react differently. Consciously device and put out more positive inner banter.
Each time you feel an assault from unhealthy inner criticism, turn your understanding inwards. Be compassionate to yourself and lovingly resolve anything that does not make that heart of yours feel blissful and safe.
The inner critic works through certain thought patterns. Spot them and replace them with self-motivating and loving ones.
Your fears are just parts of you that have gone unloved. Don’t run away from them. Face them and decide to rise out of your comfort zone. Because, you may feel cozy in there but you won’t know all that you are capable of if you don’t live your wild.
That’s what your inner critic will hate the most. You embracing your imperfections and turning them into your strengths is how you’ll dive deep into self love.
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